Maintaining a stable and healthy relationship with your partner is a two-way street, and according to research, it is crucial for optimal health, both mentally and physically.
While unstable romantic relationships may be more likely to lead to symptoms of anxiety and depression, a happy and healthy relationship has often been associated with lowered stress and depression levels.
Sometimes, societal ideas about what makes a good relationship can be misguided, especially with the seemingly perfect love stories featured in the movies. Without you realising it, these can instil ideas about what a healthy relationship should look like, but that’s not true. And when you unconsciously start comparing your own relationships to those unrealistic ones on the screen, and things don’t match up, you may feel disappointed and confused.
That being said, what if we told you that many habits and behaviours you might think are toxic are actually signs of a healthy relationship? By understanding healthy traits better, you’ll be equipped to know how to keep your relationships strong and healthy.
Here are 6 signs you’re in a healthy relationship:
- You spend time apart
You know those times when you and your partner do your own thing? It’s not a bad sign; in fact, it’s healthy! Many people think that spending every moment together is a sign of a healthy relationship. However, the truth is that personal space is essential for a healthy relationship. Each partner should have time to pursue their interests, spend time with friends, and have alone time. This helps to maintain a healthy sense of individuality and can improve the quality of the time spent together.
- You have set boundaries
Setting boundaries is not about being bossy; it’s about respecting each other’s needs and ensuring you and your partner are happy and respected. Saying what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not is perfectly acceptable. So, don’t be afraid to speak up and create a space where you both feel happy and secure.
- You and your partner have disagreements
Many wonder whether conflicts are necessary for healthy relationships. Most people think a healthy relationship should be conflict-free, but that’s not true. The truth is conflict is unavoidable in any relationship, and in fact, healthy relationships involve healthy conflict resolution. This means that both partners are willing to listen, communicate openly and honestly, and find a solution that works for everyone.
- You accept each other’s flaws
Another sign that you’re in a healthy relationship is accepting and embracing these flaws. It’s not about overlooking significant issues, but rather, understanding that no one is perfect. It’s about recognising your partner’s strengths and weaknesses and choosing to love them despite, and sometimes because of, their imperfections. By mastering the art of being there for your partner and accepting them completely, you create a safe and authentic space for your relationship to thrive.
- You don’t resolve every conflict
In every relationship, it's natural to encounter disagreements and conflicts. While it's essential to address and resolve issues, there are times when letting go of minor conflicts can be a sign of maturity. It doesn’t mean you avoid problems, but rather, you choose your battles wisely. Recognising that not every disagreement needs an immediate solution can create a more harmonious environment, allowing you and your partner to focus on the bigger picture and maintain a sense of balance.
- You have the ‘difficult conversations’
And lastly, another sign that you’re in a healthy relationship is when you are willing to express difficult truths with kindness and consideration. This reflects a level of trust and transparency between you and your partner, as a healthy relationship will have moments when honesty and open communication may cause temporary discomfort. It also shows that you both value the long-term health of the relationship over avoiding temporary discomfort.
In conclusion, it's essential to remember that a healthy relationship is not about perfection, but rather, about practising growth, respect, and honesty. While the fairy-tale standards we see in movies can be misleading, we must recognise that personal space, setting boundaries, healthy conflict resolution, acceptance of flaws, and open communication are all signs of a healthy relationship.
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